People see your scars rather you know it or not. I have a faithful man in my life and have a child on the way we have been together now for four months and before we became a couple he knew I was troubled. He knew I had been through some terrible things,he also knew I self harmed myself he just wasn’t completely for sure what I was doing to myself. Now he knows why I did it, he also knows I was a cutter. There is no secrets anymore. It feels great not to worry about that no more it also feels good to know my scars don’t define me they remind me I survived!
One of my best friends saw my scars and confronted me one day.” I just want you to know that no matter how alone you think you are, I will always be here for you.” After he told me that he gave me his number and told me to call him if I ever felt that I needed to harm myself again. So now I tell you, you are not alone. There is someone close to you that you can talk to about anything you face.
i’ve been clean of SI 6 months. I’m so proud of myself for being clean this long, i finally realized the ugly scars aren’t worth it, i’ve told the negativity in my life to bounce. i still get urges but they won’t over run my strength as a person, as a person who has a right to be present on this planet. but even though i’ve stopped, people will always stare at my scars no matter what, some even point them out or comment about them because scars show a sign of weakness. you can overcome this because you WILL find strength.
Look down at your scars and smile, because you’ve just made it through the hardest time. And you’re alive, I’m glad.
It’s been three months and almost two weeks since I’ve self-harmed. This is the longest I’ve ever gone without it since I started. I still get urges, but I’ve learned that the urges do NOT control what I do. I do not have to self-harm just because I feel like I do. I can learn to cope, express my emotions, and wait through the urges. I won’t lie and say it’s easier, because for me, it’s not yet. It’s still a day to day struggle to remind myself that self-harm is not the solution. It’s something I have to deal with and cope with in a healthy way, and eventually the urges will start to fade just like the scars.
I used to self injur it started when I was 15 and went through a traumatic event. It didn’t stop until I was 18 but not before I tried to take my own life. I was always so depressed and never felt like anyone understood me or what I was going through. I got married and was so affraid to tell my husband about it but he saw the scars and I finally explained it to him. He stood by me and he has kept me strong. We have a beautiful 7 month old daughter and I get so scared sometimes because i know someday she will see my scars and ask me where they came from. I wish I knew what to say, I trust God will give me the right words. Life is beautiful and your body is sacred. Don’t ever feel like your alone because I PROMISE you your not.
Even after I had stopped cuttting, I used to look at my scars and think that they defined me. They were a constant reminder of what I did, but what I didnt realize is that they were also a constant reminder of how far I have come. My scars are part of who I am, but they dont define me; I define me.
“Dont hide your scars, dont be ashamed, they are a constant reminder that you made it through. You are alive.
Growing up I was a cutter but back then there was no name for it…I needed to cut to help me deal with the emotional pain that I could not handle. The physical pain was so much easier. I did it on and off for years and what made me stop was my children. When I got pregnant, the thought of my kids seeing my scars and asking me about them or worse yet, becoming like me scared me into stopping. It made me find another way of dealing with the pain. It was challenging at times but worth it. It is possible, there are ways. My kids are everything to me. When you find that something then hang on to it.