• Light at the end...
    Light at the end...
    From someone who self-injured for years I can say that you can overcome this. I haven't cut in about 1.5 years now and I can honestly say it feels great. I struggled at times, but I think that's a part of the process. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, you just have to work to get there...but trust me, it is so worth it. I'm glad I stopped...so glad!
  • Trust...
    "Tell someone you can trust, someone who won’t laugh at you; tell your teacher or a counselor. I know it seems like they are oblivious to what we go through but there’s a really good chance they will understand (they may have gone through similar stuff when they were younger). Let your heart reach out and you’ll find peace."
  • YOU will get through this...
    YOU will get through this...
    "Self-injury is not worth it. You are. Hang in there. Believe in yourself. You are strong, beautiful and YOU will get through this.You can and will get through this."
  • Tell Someone
    Tell Someone
    Tell someone you can trust, someone who won’t laugh at you; tell your teacher or a counsellor. I know it seems like they are oblivious to what we go through but there’s a really good chance they will understand (they may have gone through similar stuff when they were younger). Let your heart reach out and you’ll find peace.
  • Keep Fighting
    Keep Fighting
    "Like everyone says, self-injury urges are part of recovery. I haven’t cut in 10 months. I still get urges from time to time but the time between them gets longer. It gets better if that makes sense. Keep fighting everyone, you’re doing well!" ☺
  • Do it for you
    Do it for you
    Take all of the energy that was going into SI and put it into something else, something that you can put your whole self into. It doesn’t have to be just one thing; I’ve written poetry, beaded necklaces, and gotten lost in books. Whatever it is, do it just for you and nobody else, I mean, if other people like it, that’s great, but it has to be about you.
  • Talk to someone
    Talk to someone
    Going to see my school counselor sounded like a really scary thing, but it was so helpful for me. Don’t be worried about other students’ stigma or that teachers will find out and your grades will be affected, if anything, talking to my counselor helped my grades because it helped my depression. If you really don’t want to see someone at school, you can talk to your doctor and they can refer you to independent counseling. Learning to open up to trusting people helped make my feelings lift.
  • I feel safe...
    I feel safe...
    I really feel safe in here with people that feel the way i do:))
  • Opening up
    Opening up
    Opening up can be really scary sometimes...trust me! But honestly, it can do you the WORLD of good... even if it's just to have a bit of a rant about something that seems so silly or insignificant. It releases a whole world of emotions, and ultimately makes u feel better inside. None of us on here will judge you for the way you feel, so if you feel the need to or urge to cut, please talk to someone. I dont know if any of this will help but just hang in there!!!
  • Never Give Up!
    Never Give Up!
    ...try and get out and do things you like...use up time and hopefully take your mind off self harm, even if only for a little while. Remember, self harm is never the answer. Take care every1 -- oh and I don't think you're crazy either but I often thing I am so I know how it feels. Oh and also, if you want help it's out there, sometimes it can take a bit of looking around to find but don't give up....never give up!!!!!
  • Ur not alone!!
    Ur not alone!!
    I think I understand what ur going through. Ur NOT alone. Ur NOT crazy, many ppl feel like this. I think talking 2 someone is a good way to start and u should try and go out and do activities u like to do...maybe even try something new. I can't say I know the answer, I'm taking an anti-deppresant too, but never give up and always keep trying. whenever u want to cut urself - STOP by saying that the pain won't get rid of the problem and instead try distracting urself with something else-a sport, music, calling a friend, running, etc.

    I dont know if any of this will help but just hang in there.
  • Getting through the urge
    Getting through the urge
    This sounds kinda silly but a new technique that I seem to have adopted when trying to fight the urge to self-harm, is to just consciously tell my brain how silly and un-safe it is. I'm so using it now, that it's almost like 2nd nature to automatically just think in my brain that that is what I'm going to do...but if I take a just a second to slow down and just tell myself that it's un-safe, then it gives me time to calm myself and tell myself that it will be ok...that I will be ok... and that I can get through the urge.
  • What I say to self-injury
    What I say to self-injury
    You were a such a very big obstacle in my life...I relied on you to take my pain away...but now.... I have over come the obstacle...I recovered... & now i no longer need you.
  • Stopping self-injury
    Stopping self-injury
    you will be able to stop, it just takes time. you don't learn to ride a bike the first time you try right... eventually you'll be able to bike for miles and miles without so much as a wobble, but at the start, you fall over lots. its the same sorta thing with stopping harming
  • Suggestions...
    Sometimes writing things out on paper can help to get the feelings out. Try doing that instead of self-injuring if you can. OR, try talking to someone you trust...i would suggest someone in person or on the phone if you can! It helped me! Good luck, hand in there :)
  • Never give up!
    Never give up!
    Altho it can feel like ur all alone, ur not. I used to think that all the time but I was wrong. I also know u can beat this. It's not ez but u can definatly do it! Just keep going...keep trying...never stop...never give up!!!!
  • U can cope
    U can cope
    It may not seem like it, but there are ways to cope and not give in with the urge! I'm not sayin' it's easy but u can do it! Do anything else...draw, paint, blast some music, call a friend, go for a run, jump up and down, do anythng...u can do it...trust me, u can overcome this!
  • You can be free of SI!
    You can be free of SI!
    I used to think I would always SI...that I couldnt stop it. I was wrong. So wrong. It starts with telling someone u can trust...and then it takes a lot of work, but from someone who went thru this, I can say its worth it...u can get over this...u can recover...u can be free! Hang in there...u can do it!
  • Exercise helped me!
    Exercise helped me!
    So, I know we all have our own things that help us but for me I found that exercise helped. Whenever I had an urge I just got up and did something...pushups, sit ups, running..I even used my stairs lol...just moving around helped...I now run a few times a week and find it really helps my mood. Just thought Id share...maybe it will help...just remeber u can stop!
  • Never alone
    Never alone
    So it may seem like ur all alone in this fight but ur not! Call a friend, text a friend, go talk to your family, talk to a psychologist, talk to anyone at all...u are never alone....NEVER.
  • Life after SI
    Life after SI
    I used to think I couldnt stop that I'd always SI. With the help of a good friend and my counsellor I learned I could overcome SI. It wasnt easy...trust me...it was really tough at times and I had times when I'd do it again...but thats normal. Everyone has setbacks. But you can do it. You can beat this. WE can all beat this...best wishes to u all! xo
  • Moving on...
    Moving on...
    Self-injury will not define me. What I do from now on about self-injury will define me.
  • Keep fighting!
    Keep fighting!
    It's tough but it's also worth it. You can stop self injuring. Just keep saying to yourself: Keep fighting. Keep fighting. Keep fighting...
  • Writing...
    I've started to keep a journal to write down how I feel. It's soooooo helpful to just get it out. Whenever I feel sad or when I think about burning agin, I just write and write...after a bit of time I don't want to do it anymore...just thought Id share. xoxox
  • Remeber when you didn't cut
    Remeber when you didn't cut
    So, my counsellor and I decided to write down the times I wanted to cut but didn't. I couldn't believe it. There were actually times when I felt urges but didn't give in. Sometimes urges are so powerful but knowing that I don't always give in gives me hope...I hope it does for you too! Good luck guys! I think we can do this!!!!
  • Getting there...day by day
    Getting there...day by day
    I've been SI free for about 3 months. I'd be lying to you if it has been an easy road (and trust me there have been some setbacks!) but day by day I'm getting there... :)
  • u can beat this...
    u can beat this...
    just wanted 2 say that i think u can beat this...i stopped about a year ago and remember thinking id never stop...thx 4 listening xo
  • New beginning...
    New beginning...
    Dear self-injury,

    We were once so close but now we're thru. It has taken so much courage to say this but:

    It's over between us.

    This is our end...and my NEW beginning!
  • urges can pass
    urges can pass
    I've been getting treatment for a while now and I can honestly say that although urges can come on pretty strong they dont last forever. eventually they pass. and when they do you realize you dont have to give in each time they come back.
  • Keep a safety box
    Keep a safety box
    i keep a little safety box in my room with a bunch of things I do can when I get an urge. Mine has pencils, crayons, paper, music, pens, a list of friends phone numbers, a stress ball, lotion, glue, glitter, and a ton of other crafts. Doing crafts really helps me a ton, so does drawing or writing. I think anyone could make their own box with their own stuff...you just have to find what works for you...but give it a try. It really helps me and gives me hope I will break this cycle.
  • Talking helps
    Talking helps
    OK so I its real tuff to tell ppl about ur si but it can actually help. I used to think no1 would get it...so I kept it a big secret..no one knew. I mean I wanted to tell ppl but was sooo scared. I eventually said "just do it!" And I did. You know what? It helped...and now I feel I have the support to beat this and stop si'ing so much.
  • break the silence
    break the silence
    Tell someone. You are not alone. Break the silence....it's hard but you can do it. And, it can help to not do it alone!
  • I remember
    I remember
    I remember what it was like, what it was like to self-harm. I remember what it was like to feel all alone. I remember what it was like to hate myself. I remember how said it was.

    I remember it but I won't ever go back. You can stop self-harm. You can stop and move on. Believe you can. I believe you can.
  • I find yoga helps...
    I find yoga helps...
    I found that yoga helps. I go to yoga a few times a week and each time I feel so much calmer. It's weird because I think it makes me feel better overall so I don't have as many urges :)
  • Think ahead...
    Think ahead...
    Growing up I was a cutter but back then there was no name for it...I needed to cut to help me deal with the emotional pain that I could not handle. The physical pain was so much easier. I did it on and off for years and what made me stop was my children. When I got pregnant, the thought of my kids seeing my scars and asking me about them or worse yet, becoming like me scared me into stopping. It made me find another way of dealing with the pain. It was challenging at times but worth it. It is possible, there are ways. My kids are everything to me. When you find that something then hang on to it.
  • We can overcome this together!
    We can overcome this together!
    There is such a terrible stigma around self-injury, because so many people do not understand it - but I do, and there are a lot of us who do. You are not alone. I began engaging in self-injury when I was 15 years-old. I wanted to stop the emotional pain, and the physical pain was not only a distraction, but it provided me with immediate relief. However, the relief was only temporary and did not allow me to deal with my problems in an effective manner. I continued to harm myself for 9 more years as a way of coping, and finally got the help I needed years later. I am happy to say that I have not harmed myself in over 5 years, and can't even imagine ever thinking of doing so again. There is always hope, for every single one of us, and we can overcome this together!
  • Reaching out...
    Reaching out...
    Stopping cutting isn't easy but it's definitely worth it. There's so much great stuff that you miss out on when you're keeping all your feelings inside. Reaching out was the best thing I ever did for myself.
  • I'm getting better...
    I'm getting better...
    I'm getting better. Having not cut for 3 months is a big deal for me. I do miss my razor sometimes but then I look at how misruble it made. How it made things worse. I'm not happy yet but I have to say I am not that depressed as I used to be. If you are a person reading this who SI's, know it gets better. It takes time. It isn't going to be easy, but stay strong. If I could do it you can too. Best of luck to everyone who wants and is getting better. I really wish all the best for you!!
  • don't think you can stop? THINK AGAIN!!!
    don't think you can stop? THINK AGAIN!!!
    … one day i relized it got very serious and told my best friend. she talked to me and tried to help. at first i thought she hated me for it. i learned she was just worried. she got me to tell a youth leader and then i eventaully told my parents. it was the scariest part! they were very understanding. i know that can be a scary part but it turned out to be the easiest! they talked to me and i was put in counciling. my counciler was so kind and understanding it was amazing. due to these steps, today on july 13th 2012 it has been 88 days since i last cut. i urge all the time but am able to fight. i know it sound scary to tell a a friend or parent but it will help…. i am telling you that you can stop and you can do this. you are not alone….
  • Stay Strong!
    Stay Strong!
    As a victim on SI, I've learned that at times I'm able to cope by taking every reason that's eating at me, writing it on paper, and burning the paper. As silly as it sounds, it's saved me on some of my worst nights. I've also passed this onto a girl at school who's scars I noticed.. she called me one night because I saved her life with giving her something better to do than harm herself.

    As much as it seems like things don't get better, they truly do. Maybe not tomorrow, but one day.. and that day will be worth everything you've gone through.

    Keep your heads up, and stay strong.
  • On My Way
    On My Way
    5 years.. That's how long I struggled. From 7th grade all the way to 11th grade. My friends only knew about my cutting in 7th and 8th grade, but it continued well past that, clearly. It was an on and off thing where I'd go months without cutting, only to loose control again.. But, as my senior year approaches (something I never imagined living to see), I'm thankful that I'm still alive and, with the help of a very close friend, I am on my way to recovery.
  • It's okay
    It's okay
    You are not alone. You are beautiful. Dont let anybody tell you you're not. Cutting isnt worth it. Stay Strong. Stay Free. Stay Beautiful.
  • stay strong
    stay strong
    My life motto now is stay strong. My best friend kept saying that to me when I was in the dark.
  • I am brave
    I am brave
    I am not a freak no matter what they say I am beautiful. I am strong. I am brave. And i can do this
  • Never give up!
    Never give up!
    I started cutting when I was 11 years old. I attemted suiside for the first time when I was 12 years old. I woke up in a hosbital when I was 13 years old. That day changed my life. That was the day that I realized i didn't want to die. All I wanted was a way out and with a little help I found if. Suiside if a permenent solution to a temporary problem. Don't ever give up hope. You are not alone.
  • Breathing
    Self-injury used to be a big part of my life. I used it to forget the world around me and I could be in control. I didn't realize I was out of control till I couldn't stop. Talking to people about has really help me cope and quit cutting. It took me 3 trys to make it through therapy. You can do it. I am two years free of self-injury. Breathing has become easier and life has become bearable. I know I have people around who love me and support me. Cutting is never the answer. Love is.
  • Recovering
    you deserve to be happy!!!!!!! it took me a really long time to finally look myself in the mirror and tell myself that i deserved more than razors and blood. and you also deserve more! no matter what anyone may have told you at any point you have the right to make yourself a happy and healthy life and one that youre proud of
  • Just stand up!
    Just stand up!
    The heart is stronger than you think you can go through anything and even when you think you cant you'll find away to still push on . Sometimes you wanna run away aint got the patience for the pain Im telling you things get better through whatever you fall just get up don't give don't you know you can go be your own mirical. You need to know if the mind keeps thinking you've had enough but the heart keeps telling you don't give up... who are you to be question and wondering what ius what don't give up... THROUGH IT ALL JUST STAND UP !
  • You can stop too
    You can stop too
    I am 53years old and started to self harm at 45 I have been clean (and I say clean because self harm is an addiction) for 4 years. It wasnt easy for me I could feel my arms hurting to self harm but I decided I hated the feeling of having to self harm to make myself feel good.It was always a rollercoaster ride and it became very tiring. You need to just stop,it really feels like cold turkey. Take 1 minute at a time and feel good about yourself that you are actually doing something positive for yourself.
    Hurting your self is reallya moment thing it works at the time but then the feeling goes away.Yiu need to self harm to get back that feeling. Just stop and get help.This will help you to continue on your path to feel good about yourself.
  • Don't be ashamed.
    Don't be ashamed.
    "Dont hide your scars, dont be ashamed, they are a constant reminder that you made it through. You are alive.
  • Hope never stops
    Hope never stops
    For several days now I have listened to my loved one struggle with the urge to SI. As a mother I have decided to try harder to understand and reach out to the resources i never knew existed. This is a very real issue that I have been involved in for several years now, periodically rearing it's ugly head to remind us we're not finished with the battle and we never give up!

    "Hope is the thing with feathers that perches in the soul, and sings the tune without the words, and never stops at all." Emily Dickinson
  • Recovery is a process...
    Recovery is a process...
    Recovery is not an event. It's a process. I am one year free of self injury but I still consider myself to be in recovery. It's okay. Have faith. Things do get better. You're worth it!
  • I define me
    I define me
    Even after I had stopped cuttting, I used to look at my scars and think that they defined me. They were a constant reminder of what I did, but what I didnt realize is that they were also a constant reminder of how far I have come. My scars are part of who I am, but they dont define me; I define me.
  • Strategies
    I find it helps to take your hand and rub/massage the spot you want to self-harm.
  • You can overcome SI
    You can overcome SI
    Like many who have recovered, I still think about SI. Sometimes I even have urges. But every time I do I am reminded of why I don't SI now. You are strong. You can over come this! These messages only confirm this.
  • it does get better
    it does get better
    Is it hard to believe that music can save a life? It did for me. "Carolyn" from Black Veil Brides saved me. It stopped me from self harming. If you're out there cutting yourself,it does get better. Listen to music,block out the messed up society. "You're not alone,we'll brave this storm. And face today,you're not alone"-Black Veil Brides
  • life is beautiful
    life is beautiful
    I used to self injur it started when I was 15 and went through a traumatic event. It didn't stop until I was 18 but not before I tried to take my own life. I was always so depressed and never felt like anyone understood me or what I was going through. I got married and was so affraid to tell my husband about it but he saw the scars and I finally explained it to him. He stood by me and he has kept me strong. We have a beautiful 7 month old daughter and I get so scared sometimes because i know someday she will see my scars and ask me where they came from. I wish I knew what to say, I trust God will give me the right words. Life is beautiful and your body is sacred. Don't ever feel like your alone because I PROMISE you your not.
  • Now fight!
    Now fight!
    I know it seems stupid to take a life lesson from a movie about a schoolgirl in a mental hospital but I did. I cut for almost three years...I was doing so well until last year. My mom and I became seriously ill. I was in a coma for a week and almost died. My mom did after fighting for 5 months. I'm 24 now and until last June had lived with her almost all my life. We were not only family but friends....My mom fought for five months through horrific pain... She fought for me. It's only right I fight to honor her. It's not easy to learn how to live so late in life but I had someone amazing and beautiful to help me believe that maybe faith isn't something to scoff at. That hope isn't just a ticket to pain and disappointment. Like it says at the end of Suckerpunch, "You have all the weapons you need. Now fight."
  • Not-ashamed
    I have been 1 month cut-free. I cut because I wanted people to be attentive to me, no one was noticing me, so I wanted to give them a reason to notice me. Today, I realize I didn't need to cut, I just needed to talk. Not to a casual friend, but to someone who cares. I'm not ashamed of my past, it is what I do with it to shape my future that matters.
  • finding the answers
    finding the answers
    at first I was scared to tell my best friend, once I did a weight was lifted. she never questioned, but tried to understand. from that day on I learned a lot about myself. I finally found answers that I was looking for.
  • I. Will. Stop.
    I. Will. Stop.
    Currently I am trying to stop self-injuring. I will stop. It takes a while, and so much determination and willpower, but eventually, I. Will. Stop.

    and so will you.
  • your tomorrow
    your tomorrow
    i know everyone is told that life gets better, but really think about that. in ten years, none of this will matter. you'll be so strong. so strong. even in two years, you'll be okay. promises are made to be broken, so i swear to you, you'll wake up one day and feel the weight of the world slowly but surely lifting off of you. you'll be okay. maybe not now, but your "tomorrow" will come.
  • never give in...
    never give in...
    Never give in to the darkness and the addiction of cutting. You are stronger than you think. You will get better and you can-will- stop.
  • Urges do not control me
    Urges do not control me
    It's been three months and almost two weeks since I've self-harmed. This is the longest I've ever gone without it since I started. I still get urges, but I've learned that the urges do NOT control what I do. I do not have to self-harm just because I feel like I do. I can learn to cope, express my emotions, and wait through the urges. I won't lie and say it's easier, because for me, it's not yet. It's still a day to day struggle to remind myself that self-harm is not the solution. It's something I have to deal with and cope with in a healthy way, and eventually the urges will start to fade just like the scars.
  • It doesn't control me.
    It doesn't control me.
    I'm 16 now and i've been 2 months free of self-harm. I started when I was 10 because I was being bullied, my family life wasn't the greatest, and I never had any friends. I started cutting to cope with all my overwhelming emotions. And i've been cutting ever since. Until 11th grade when I finally told my wonderful teacher about my self-harm, and she told my parents. She always answered my questions, supported me, and really encouraged me to get better. I don't think I could have done it without her support. It's been really hard to stop cutting, the need was (and still is) there in the back of my mind, but now I control it; it doesn't control me. Thanks to the help of my supportive family, my teacher, my therapist, and friends, i'm going into 12th grade self-harm free....Now, after everything, I never want to go back to self-injuring. Ever.
  • stronger than the blade
    stronger than the blade
    You are stronger than that blade!
  • Being in your shoes
    Being in your shoes
    self harm is something we can control.... have been in your shoes and its a war i still am fighting....I used to believe that i was alone. Its as if i were inside this black hole and i just kept falling deeper and deeper... I realized that there is people who care and want the best for you. It hurts them to see you like that. My point is , you are not alone. No one is. No matter how cold and horrible this world might seem there will always be that spark of sunshine. Things do get better & the urges do stop. But we are the ones in control, we decide. I myself havent fully recovered but im trying, there is people around you that understand and want to help. These are words from someone who has been in your shoes and is still fighting this war.
  • Find someone...stay strong!
    Find someone...stay strong!
    I found someone that I felt really and truly cared. That person helped me and continues to help me everyday encouraing me that Im wanted and needed in this world and that Im not useless like Ive come to believe. My friend has helped me to the point where I havent injured myself for a few months. Whenever I feel over the edge and want to hurt myself I call my friend and she talks me out of it. She talked me out of commiting suicide. Without her, I wouldnt be here today. Any advice I would give others would be to find someone to trust and talk to them. Tell them. Trust me, it helps. Stay strong.
  • Never Alone
    Never Alone
    There is always someoe out there trying to help. You just have to open yourself to realize that self harm is a problem, that you need help. You're never alone.
  • what you are
    what you are
    you're not crazy. thinking you think you are fearful. is what you are.
    lets get rid of them, the voices in your head. together. forevermore you will be lovely.
    outside is beautiful. inside is beautiful. all of you is simply perfect. perfectly perfect.
    that's what you are
  • don't let the storm win
    don't let the storm win
    "When life comes at you like a storm and you think all hope is lost, do not let the waves keep you down. Though it may feel like you will drown, I am waiting for you to resurface that I might take you home." -- We are caught up in a storm and are being thrown around by the waves. We feel like we will drown at any moment. But...someone is ALWAYS there to help. There is someone out there that wants to help and there is someone out there going through the same things as you. You may feel alone, but there is always someone there to take your hand and pull you out of the water. You may not be out of the storm, but you will be in a boat with someone who will ride the waves with you, and never let go of your hand. You are not alone. Don't give up. Do not let the storm win. Stay strong.
  • you can always begin again
    you can always begin again
    When you're at the lowest point in your life, and you feel like you cant go on anymore, reach out for help. After being down for many years I finally reached out for help, I was diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder. After hospitalization, therapy, and medicine I can honestly say I would not be a live if I wouldn't have asked for help. Its never too late to ask for help, as long as you are willing to receive it. As Buddha once said, "No matter how hard the past, you can always begin again."
  • you've made it through
    you've made it through
    Look down at your scars and smile, because you've just made it through the hardest time. And you're alive, I'm glad.
  • you CAN get through this!
    you CAN get through this!
    Make a pact with a close friend or family member, someone you trust. Because you hurt them when you hurt yourself. I know it doesn't always seem like anyone cares about you. But I do, even though I don't know you, I care, and I do not want to see you hurt yourself. You CAN get through this. I know you can.
  • strong and beautiful
    strong and beautiful
    i am 13 and i have been self harming for 3 years. this is my first year in high school and i thought that being at a new school would help as i have been bullied all thruogh primary school. it didnt and i am still being bullied but today, the 1st of november is 100 days withoutself harm. it was and still is very hard but i fight the urge. if you fight for just a minute the urge to self harm will fade. i talked to my chaplain and now we are best friends. i encourage you to talk to someone. you are beutiful and nothing can change that. STAY.STRONG.BEAUTIFUL.

    Believe that you cn do it. Or esle what point is there in trying?
  • brave and strong
    brave and strong
    Knocked down but not out; crying but still breathing; broken but brave i'm still strong enough to survive this
  • Grateful....
    I'm not going to say I will never cut or do drugs again or say that I don't have cravings anymore but I haven't cut or done drugs in almost two years now. I am clean and I wouldn't miss this life I have for anything. I hope this was somewhat inspiring. I hope and pray that someone reads this and knows that recovery is possible and happiness through recovery will meet you someday. Life is a blessing to me and I'm only 21. Imagine what I have yet to accomplish in my many years to come. I am grateful.
  • Stand up!
    Stand up!
    I haven't cut in about a Month now, I know it's not that long, But It'll be a long time. Black Veil Brides saved my life with their Music, they might save yours! Throw away the Razor... "Stand up for what You Believe in, Even if that means standing Alone."~Black Veil Brides.
  • Stay Strong!!
    Stay Strong!!
    I used to suffer from depression and self harm because I felt like I was all alone in this world that would never understand me. And to be honest, my family and friends didn't get me at all and for the most part still don't. But then I discovered reading... Not teenage dramas or romance novels but actual classic literature. Authors really open themselves up in their novels, and you realize all those thoughts and feelings that you thought no one else had are right before your eyes. And you realize you're not alone after all.
    If you struggle with self harm or depression, try reading. It may sounds stupid at first, but just try it. :) It saved my life, and it may help you too.
    I love you all and stay strong.
  • I'm getting better
    I'm getting better
    I had a really bad time period from about 7th grade to 9th grade. I had just moved to a new school and everyone thought I was odd. I had family problems going on and it just wasn't a good time for me. I wanted to be normal. A girl on my bus did it and I thought "how much worse could it get"? I still do that. But now I know there is nothing wrong with me. I am strong. I have people love me. I think everyone should know that. There is always someone who loves you. I'm getting better. Clean for three months and for once in a long time I'm happy.
  • happiness exists...
    happiness exists...
    Being taught that this is something you have to deal with on your own sometimes feels un-fair. That you have to figure it all out by yourself. I believe pieces you find out on your own, like learning to love yourself, except that you are human, and not be so afraid of the world. You don't have to be alone. You're not alone. True happiness exists. It sometimes seems to be hidden, but it's there.
  • YOU can do it!
    YOU can do it!
    Stay strong! It's easier to say it than do it. But I know YOU can do it. I never thought I could. But I'm a lot stronger than what I thought I could be. I used to cut. I haven't cut for six months now and I feel a lot better.
  • Recover IS possible...
    Recover IS possible...
    I hope and pray that someone reads this and knows that recovery is possible and happiness through recovery will meet you someday. Life is a blessing to me and I'm only 21. Imagine what I have yet to accomplish in my many years to come. I am grateful.
  • You are stronger!
    You are stronger!
    This is a peronal quote that I have created, during recovery after relapsing. "Everytime you slip, just know that you are stronger than you were before, we all make mistakes, they don't mean that our progress has been lost, it means we can learn from them and move on"
  • believe in yourself
    believe in yourself
    If you're feeling especially incomplete, hollow, please don't cut. Or burn. Write a poem, draw a picture. Talk to a friend, or talk to a piece of paper (metaphor-write on it lawl). Write a letter to somebody who made you upset or who you think is beautiful and talented and might not get the praise he/she deserves...it doesn't matter if you'll never end up sending it. It'll relieve some stress and/or the urge to self-injure. Keep your head up. Don't let people push you around. Be who you are. Do what you love to do. Love yourself, and know that you're ultimately a strong, lovable, and wonderful person. I believe in you. I love you. And, together, we can overcome this insanely difficult time in our lives. Trust me, I've been there. Honestly? I AM there, right now. Believe in yourself.
  • don't isolate yourself...
    don't isolate yourself...
    I have not injured myself in 3 weeks and I am proud to say I have rarely thought about it. Yes I have thought about it, but I believe that the fact that I have not acted on it is great. I have been trying to recover for months now, and the longest I have gone without self-harming was 2 months. Something that has really helped me accomplish 3 weeks is my friends. Recently I have been hanging out with them often and that helps because it takes my mind off of it and they make me happy. So don't isolate yourself, because I used to do that and honestly it just made it worse.
  • pain doesn't last forever
    pain doesn't last forever
    Sometimes life knocks us down. Then we look up and there isnt anyone to help us up. But we have to lean to help ourselves up. We have to learn its ok to be weak sometimes but that doesnt mean you are ONLY weak. We have to learn how to love and apreciate ourselves enough to live on and fight through pain. Pain doesnt last forever.
  • never lose hope
    never lose hope
    You mean so much, never doubt that. You are here for a reason, you don't deserve to hurt, you have value, and I care about you. Never give in, never lose hope, never give up, because you are worth so much more.
  • the first step...
    the first step...
    Tell someone, even one person that you trust. Telling that one person is the first step to recovering, because when you think about doing it, you think of what they would say or do.
  • you WILL find strength
    you WILL find strength
    i've been clean of SI 6 months. I'm so proud of myself for being clean this long, i finally realized the ugly scars aren't worth it, i've told the negativity in my life to bounce. i still get urges but they won't over run my strength as a person, as a person who has a right to be present on this planet. but even though i've stopped, people will always stare at my scars no matter what, some even point them out or comment about them because scars show a sign of weakness. you can overcome this because you WILL find strength.
  • never alone
    never alone
    One of my best friends saw my scars and confronted me one day." I just want you to know that no matter how alone you think you are, I will always be here for you." After he told me that he gave me his number and told me to call him if I ever felt that I needed to harm myself again. So now I tell you, you are not alone. There is someone close to you that you can talk to about anything you face.
  • it gets better...
    it gets better...
    I still remember when i found this site, i read all these stories about how it gets better and how good some people where doing and i thought some day that might be me.
    Now I'm here, over 200 days clean without any self harming. I'm breathing and I'm alive. It gets better.
  • changing...
    I self harmed for about 6 years, it started off because I always thought I wasn't good enough, then when I got older my best friend had killed himself, since that day it made me realize that if I were to kill myself I wouldn't only be hurting me, but hurting every one else. I couldn't believe that I could possibly put my loved ones through that awful pain. so I started changing my ways, every time I felt the urge to self harm. I would go out and long board, or call up one of my friends to hang out. and soon enough I wasn't thinking about it all the time. and I felt great.(and my skin was looking great!). since that time I haven't self harmed or even thought about it. that would be about 3 years ago. and I couldn't be happier.
  • fight every single day
    fight every single day
    I've been in recovery for almost 7 months now,and I'm proud of myself. No one around me really understands how hard it is not to want to hurt myself, but I fight every single day. The road to recovery has been anything but easy but I'm still walking and I hope to eventually make it all the way there.
  • never alone
    never alone
    I thank everyone for sharing their stories - I do believe it makes us all stronger knowing we're not alone!
  • stay strong...you're amazing
    stay strong...you're amazing
    I struggled with depression and self harm for years. I met a guy and we started dating(still are). at an early age of 13, I became pregnant with his child. When I was 3 months pregnant, I had a miscarriage. the day we found out about the miscarriage, my boyfriend and I both promised to never cut again because we knew our baby would be looking down on us from heaven. it's been 4 months since then, and we're both doing great. we thank our little angel and each other for helping us move on from this stage in our life. although my story most likely isn't relatable to many of you, my point is that if you find the right motivation, you can promise to stop cutting or self harming and never look back. I know it sounds crAzy now, believe me. but if you stay strong and hold on, taking life a day at a time, or even an hour at a time , things WILL get better. good luck and stay strong all of you lovely people. You're amazing
  • scars don't define me
    scars don't define me
    People see your scars rather you know it or not. I have a faithful man in my life and have a child on the way we have been together now for four months and before we became a couple he knew I was troubled. He knew I had been through some terrible things,he also knew I self harmed myself he just wasn't completely for sure what I was doing to myself. Now he knows why I did it, he also knows I was a cutter. There is no secrets anymore. It feels great not to worry about that no more it also feels good to know my scars don't define me they remind me I survived!
  • recovery process
    recovery process
    Urges and relapses are going to happen, they are a part of the recovery process. The point is to make the amount of time between the relapses longer until the urges are no longer there.
  • scars and healing
    scars and healing
    You can see a scar and see hurt. But I prefer to look at my scars and see healing.
  • never forget
    never forget
    things used to be at a point where i decided to self-harm , and to become unaware of all the people there for me , i was never alone , deciding to stop self-harming was an emotional thing at the time but i decided change was the best , change is the key of everything , love, laugh and live happily (: we should cherish all the good and just know that everything does get better , if you self-harm let a trusted adult know, its never late to stop , people love you , never forget
  • i am alive
    i am alive
    I'm over a year clean and even though I've made it this far that doesn't mean I don't get the want, or need sometimes. But I've learned something, something that's kept me from giving in or giving up. I am bigger, better, braver. I am bigger than the want to cut, I am better than how I may feel sometimes, and I am brave enough to talk about my problems. I am still here, I am still breathing, I am alive, so let me live.
  • anything is possible
    anything is possible
    I tend to get very attached to celebtrities that are inspiring. One of my favorite singers is Kendall Schmidt (Big Time Rush and Heffron Drive)are his two bands and one thing that he has always reminded his fans is to "Take your passion and run with it; anything is possible." And from that quote I took the anything is possible, because it is. I have been through tough times in my own life, but I can tell you that recovery IS possible and you can do anything as long as you believe in yourself. So just remember when you are having a bad day, week, month etc. just know that you will be able to get through it.
  • a reason not to go back
    a reason not to go back
    I was 9 when I started using self harm as a way to distract myself from my emotional problems. It became a part of my daily routine, either I was punishing myself for eating to much or I was using it to feel something I understood. It wasn't until I turned 16 I realized there are better ways to deal with my stress and troubles. I started looking at the risks of what I was doing to myself to give me a reason to stop and think ''I shouldn't do this. I deserve better''. I had a lot of falls but I never failed to pick myself back up and start over. I am now 20 and I haven't cut myself in over a year. I actually feel good about myself and look at my scares as a thing I got past and a reason not to go back.
  • a life worth living
    a life worth living
    I started with self-injury when I was very young and it helped me somehow. At least I thought so.... I lost many friends over the years because they could not deal with it, I was not able to have a stable relationship and it even kept me from working in the field that I wanted to work in - I always dreamed of being a police officer. They told me I was weak, not strong enough, even though I didn't hurt myself in several years at that time. I heard it from everybody and it opened my eyes. My grandma taught me, to always be positive and keep pushing through. I knew, I was strong. So why did I do this to myself? Why did I keep destroying everything? The moment the police doctor told me, I was not good enough, was the moment I knew I had to change something. Of course it is still inside me and sometimes I feel the urge, but I have changed and I don't wanna let anything take over my life again. I am married now and my husband is the main reason, that keeps me strong. I want a life with him, I want a life worth living. He is the only person who never judged me for who I am, for what is sleeping inside me.
  • it is possible....
    it is possible....
    I'm sharing my story tonight as I fight the urge to self injure. I starting cutting when I was 15 years old. I am 31 now. I will have almost a year SI free in a couple weeks. It has been difficult but worth it to continue in this journey of healing and beginning to like who I am. Why continue to punish myself for the past, especially when the reason I started to begin with wasn't even my fault. Loving myself and forgiving myself may be the hardest things I ever learn to do, but I am determined to make that happen and to move forward every day. Each day I don't pick up a razor is a day that hope and strength grow. I'm becoming a healthy woman, and I hope to help others who are struggling. It may be difficult but it is possible.
  • you're going to make it
    you're going to make it
    The pain is real. The scars last. Your soul is hurt. Your heart is broken. On your skin you try to make it a canvas of the chaos inside. When clarity comes you'll see, self harm for what it really is~the soul's injury. You are not through. You are not done, you matter. No one can say otherwise. Your value is not in your scars or your pain. Your past will never define you. Don't give up. Don't lose hope. Stay alive. There is only one you in existence. There will never be another you. Even though you don't have the answers and you hurt. Please, don't stop fighting. Keep going. You're going to make it through.
  • your some day....
    your some day....
    Grade eight is when I started, I needed a release. I needed something to show me that I wasn't numb to the world around me and that I truly could feel something, even though that something I would feel meant feeling pain.... I did it, so that I could feel human. It continued through high school and my first year of college. I did it over the same scar over and over again so that it just looked like it didn't heal or on my legs where no one could see, I didn't want anyone noticing, I didn't want to get attention.... I didn't want to stop, because of how addicted to it I had become. I let it take over my life, I let it be the solution to all my problems....Eventually, after a little bit in college, I decided that I no longer wanted to be reminded of the pain that I felt and that I needed to cope a different way, a healthier way. I wanted a way that still reminded me that I am human, and that I am not numb to everything around me but I wanted it to happen in a way where I didn't have to physically hurt myself to remind myself of that. I have not self-harmed for three years now and I am so proud of myself. And I want you all to know that for those struggling with self-harm, there will come a day where you will get yourself to stop. Maybe not today, tomorrow, a week/a month/a year away; but one day, you will get to your some day. When you get to your some day, it'll be the best feeling in the world and you'll be so happy that you got yourself to stop.
  • strength from overcoming...
    strength from overcoming...
    What people who don't self-harm have trouble understanding is that it is an addiction just like alcohol or drugs is and that even though you stop, the thoughts of wanting to go back don't go away. Self-harm is always in the back of my mind, and when I feel numb, or even overwhelmed with the emotions, I want to go back to that so quickly. But I remember how hard it was to stop so I don't want to start back up again. And the days and/or nights when I feel like picking up that knife or the scissors or anything sharp that I could get my hands on, I remind myself of how far I've come and how proud I am to be where I am and that I don't want to do anything that would jeopardize the progress that I've made. Everything happens for a reason and I truly believe that with all of my heart. Not only do I believe that this happened to guide me to the career that I am going to have for the rest of my life, but I believe this happened so that I could write on something like this and tell you all who read that it does get better and that one day you truly will have your some day and I hope that when you do, you feel proud and you'll realize how strong you really are. "Strength does not come from what you can do. It comes from overcoming the things you thought you couldn't." So just remember, you can and you will overcome it. One day you're some day will happen.
  • reaching that some day...
    reaching that some day...
    There will come a day where you won't want to hurt yourself anymore. Where you'll want to cope some other way. One day you will reach your some day. When that day comes you'll be so proud of yourself. You'll be so happy to finally rid of an addiction. But just like any other addiction, even though you stopped it physically, it will always be in the back of your mind. When you're going through some hard times, that self-harm strategy will come to mind. That's when mind over matter happens. It's when you'll find the strength inside yourself to say no. When you say no, that's the day. That is the day that is your some day. I promise over time you'll get there and you will reach that day. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but one day you will reach your some day.
  • overcoming self-harm...
    overcoming self-harm...
    I self-harmed for years. I felt so alone, one of my close friends told me that talking to our teacher would help relieve some of the feelings I had been feeling. It was like this huge burrden was relieved when I told someone who I trusted about my self-harm. I got the help I needed, along with the full support I have recieved, I haven't harmed myself or thought about harming myself in 2 years! If you feel like hurting yourself, it's for the best to get help and stop bad coping skills hindering your day to day life.
  • healing is possible...
    healing is possible...
    I was violently sexually assaulted by a family friend when I was 12, and began self-harming shortly after. I thought I was to blame for my attack and began punishing myself by cutting, bruising and burning myself. It was part of my daily life, until I was in 11th grade. My literature teacher saw a bruise I thought I had hidden away, and she comfronted me about it. She told me that I was not to blame for what happened to me and she just listened as I explained what happened. She pulled a leather bound journal out of her desk, handed to me, and told me when I felt like self-harming, to write in the journal instead. I thought it at first to be a stupid idea, but I gave it a shot because she was my favorite teacher. And you know what, it DID work. I graduated in 2014 with my master's degree in social work and currently work with young women dealing with mental illness, including self-harming tendencies. I still have the days when the thoughts of self-harming begin to try and sneak in, but instead of harming, I write in a notebook I always keep in my backpack. Healing is possible; it takes time and a willingness to give yourself the chance to heal and be okay. But you can heal, you can grow, and you can move past the pain.
  • life is better...
    life is better...
    I go to a psychologist, more and more I believe in god and probably into itself, i think it's my life is better.

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"Tell someone you can trust, someone who won’t laugh at you; tell your teacher or a counsellor. I know it seems like they are oblivious to what we go through but there’s a really good chance they will understand (they may have gone through similar stuff when they were younger). Let your heart reach out and you’ll find peace."

"Self-injury will not define me. What I do from now on about self-injury will define me."

"Like everyone says, self-injury urges are part of recovery. I haven’t cut in 10 months. I still get urges from time to time but the time between them gets longer. It gets better if that makes sense. Keep fighting everyone, you’re doing well"

"Self-injury is not worth it. You are. Hang in there. Believe in yourself. You are strong, beautiful and YOU will get through this.You can and will get through this."


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Wendy Lader, PhD
President & Clinical Director, SAFE Alternatives
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